mommies

During a recent conversation with a friend of mine, I was introduced to the term “Mommy Wars,” or the battle waging between mothers regarding the parenting choices they make (SAHM vs. working mom, attachment parent vs. nonattachment parent, etc).  I have been obliviously walking through life as a Mommy and a Mommy Blogger without having any awareness of this term.  I have, however, had an intuitive understanding that mothers everywhere seem to be in conflict.

I feel the battle waging a lot in my own life.  I feel it when I tell professional women that I decided to leave my medical career to stay at home with my kids.  Or when I tell attachment-style mothers that I stopped breastfeeding my kids before age 1.  Or when I tell helicopter-style mothers that I let my kids fall down at the playground sometimes ON PURPOSE so they can learn their limits.  It feels like there’s implicit judgment everywhere among mothers.  And just for the record:  I really wish that the “Mommy Wars” would stop.  I really wish that we could start being more tolerant and supportive of each other because, as my children taught me, there’s no ONE right way to be a Mommy.

For this reason, I am staging a peaceful protest of the “Mommy Wars” on my blog.  I am starting a new series entitled “Inspired Pittsburgh Mommies.” In this blog series, I will embrace a more encouraging and supportive point of view toward local women by highlighting some really incredible Pittsburgh mothers.  These women have been inspired to create unique grassroots-type projects within the city.  These projects must:

  • Benefit the greater good of Pittsburgh somehow (some examples: help a marginalized subpopulation, improve the environment, promote greater tolerance, etc).
  • Directly improve the lives of our families, children, or other mothers.

I will help promote the project by writing an interview-style blog post about it, featuring it on my website, and sharing it via my social media sites.  My hope is that this blog series will a) help make these projects a success b) motivate other mothers to help support these projects and c) inspire other mothers to make their own dreams a reality.

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Just like all you Inspired Pittsburgh Mommies, I dream BIG.  And I dream that this blog series will help change the culture of Mommyhood in this city–that it will help us learn to encourage and support each other’s dreams, projects, and choices. Inspired Pittsburgh Mommies, I want to help you!

Coming up first:  an interview with Kelly Day, the Inspired Pittsburgh Mommy who started the Kid City Rockers, a monthly Indie dance party for kids!

If you believe that you have a project that you would like me to highlight (or you know somebody else who is doing something really cool) email me at pittsburghmommyblog@gmail.com.

 

© Copyright Nadine Champsi, All rights Reserved. Written For: The Pittsburgh Mommy Blog
Nadine Champsi

Nadine Champsi

I am a doctor turned write-at-home-mom who runs the Pittsburgh Mommy Blog and is editor of Kidsburgh. I have two wonderful young children and am happily married. My interests include cooking, green-living, gardening, being in the outdoors, listening to great music, checking out the city's cool art, coming up with creative things to do with my kids, and having as many adventures as I can!
Nadine Champsi

5 Comments on My “Inspired Pittsburgh Mommies” Series: An Introduction

  1. What a great idea and what a good way to leverage the popularity of your blog. I’m not a mommy, but my wife and made the decision many years ago for her to be a stay-at-home-mom. While we were passionate about our choice and certain that it was the correct thing for her to do, we have always been careful not to try and judge others. There are too many components to a decision like that. There can’t be a single right answer and arguing over the choices serves no good purpose. What you are trying to do can serve a very good purpose. I wish you all the best with this effort.

    • Thanks Dan! I didn’t remember that your wife had decided to stay home. Was it a difficult decision for her? Did she end up going back to work?

  2. I just love this idea! It’s a very beautiful project to start, and hopefully will help promote unity and support among mothers (and others!) in our area. I have felt the battle, too, and though I’m usually a very confident mommy, it doesn’t feel good to feel inadequate through someone else’s eyes. I look forward to learning more about the women you feature in this series!

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  1. […] In my “Inspired Pittsburgh Mommy” series, I feature different Pittsburgh mothers who have started unique grassroots-type projects within the city. These projects directly benefit the greater good of Pittsburgh and improve the lives of our children, families, and/or other mothers.  The series is my humble effort to create a positive, supportive environment among Pittsburgh mothers.  I hope that it will a) help make these projects a success b) motivate other mothers to help support these projects and c) inspire other mothers to make their own dreams a reality.  An introduction to the series can be found here. […]

  2. […] In my “Inspired Pittsburgh Mommy” series, I feature different Pittsburgh mothers who have started unique grassroots-type projects within the city. These projects directly benefit the greater good of Pittsburgh and improve the lives of our children, families, and/or other mothers.  The series is my humble effort to create a positive, supportive environment among Pittsburgh mothers.  I hope that it will a) help make these projects a success b) motivate other mothers to help support these projects and c) inspire other mothers to make their own dreams a reality.  An Introduction to the series can be found here. […]